Robin M. Star
Helping navigate the world of addiction and substance abuse
Schedule your confidential complimentary 30 minute consultation with Robin today!
Robin M. Star
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Helping navigate the world of addiction and substance abuse
Schedule your confidential complementary 30 minute consultation today!
About Robin
Robin Star’s passion is helping parents with adult children struggling to independently launch and find their way in the world. Robin’s other area of expertise is assisting parents in navigating the world of addiction and substance abuse. In her private practice she uses science-based programs backed by 40 years of clinical research to teach skills and tools to motivate others to desire change. Robin’s coaching uses these evidence-based methods to empower parents. On an individual or family basis she provides tools needed to traverse the challenges of coping with children struggling to launch. And those who are addicted to drugs or alcohol (substance use disorder).
After 9 years of coaching parents who have children with substance use disorder, I realigned my program to offer help to those parents who have adult children failing to launch onto their best life journey. The skills, tools and evidence-based practices from my work are associated with how we motivate our children to desire change. We cannot do it for them, but through the program we develop together, we can make strides in forming new pathways for our children.
She is the group facilitator for Parents of Addicted Children™, a support group founded in 1999 for parents who are experiencing on-going life problems due to their child’s (children of all ages) use of alcohol and/or drugs. Robin believes assisting the parents to help themselves is one of the most important single things they can do to help their child.
Robin also coaches parents through “Take Back Your Life”™, a 4 week course which teaches parents more effective ways to deal with their child who has Substance Use Disorder and learn how to set healthy boundaries, stop losing themselves in the child’s problematic behavior and help parents move from feelings of shame, isolation, hopelessness and helplessness to an increased feeling of hope and a sense of effectiveness. In order for parents to know how to stop losing themselves in their child’s addiction they need to learn that the only behavior they can control is their own.
Robin is a graduate of the University of Denver with a BS/BA, and is a Gestalt Professional Certified Coach with a specialty in coaching families with children failing to launch and/or struggling with alcohol or drugs. She is the founder of Star Group.
Robin is certified in Community Reinforcement Approach and Family Training (CRAFT) as a Parent Network Coach, trained by the Center for Motivation and Change and works with the Partnership for Drug Free Kids. Robin provides pragmatic behavioral coaching, alternative and practical client centered solutions. She works privately with families and facilitates group learning on how to support a loved one before, during and after change.
“To let go is to fear less and to love more. To let go is not to care for, but to care about.”
“It is not what you do for your children, but what you have taught them to do for themselves, that will make them successful human beings.”
“My worst fears can come true, whether I anguish over them or not.”
“I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”
“Don’t judge a situation you have never been in.”
“Sometimes we get angry with people, when we should be angry with ourselves, because we gave them the power to change our mood and feelings.”
“Sometimes people with the worst pasts end up creating the best futures.”
Piglet: “How do you spell love?”
Pooh: “You don’t spell it, you feel it.”
“Transform sorrow into strength, pain into growth and fear into trust.”
“Every day may not be good, but there is something good in every day.”
“Let go of what I cannot control.”
“One small positive thought in the morning can change your whole day.”
“The past does not equal the future.”
“I am committed to own my own problems and let others own theirs.”
“If you judge people, you have no time to love them.”
“Be selective in your battles, sometimes peace is better than being right.”
“One day can change everything…”
“Do the best you can until you know better. Then when you know better do better.”
Ego says: “Once everything falls into place, I will find peace.”
Spirit says: “Find peace and everything will fall into place.”
“When someone is trying to change their ways, the worst thing you can do is keep bringing up the past.”
“If you stumble, make it part of the dance!”
“Treat others with kindness. You never know what burdens people bear or what they are going through. You may have power to lift their spirits or break them.”
“What if I fall? Oh, but my darling, what if you fly?”
“Serenity is not freedom from the storm, but peace amidst the storm.”
“Consider how hard it is to change yourself and you’ll understand what little chance you have in trying to change others.”
“Celebrate what you want to see more of.”
“We don’t have control over the actions of others. We do have control over how we allow their actions to affect us.”
“Do not let the behavior of others destroy your inner peace.”
“Worry is like a rocking chair. It gives you something to do, but it doesn’t get you anywhere.”
“Living Life fully means not waiting for the storm to pass, but learning to dance between the raindrops”
“Do what you can, with what you have, where you are.”
“Forgive them even if they are not sorry. Holding on to anger only hurts you, not them.”
“Storms in your life can be followed by rainbows.”
“Sometimes we need someone to simply be there…Not to fix anything in particular, but just to let us feel we are supported and cared about.”
“Pessimism never won any battle.”
“Our lives are not determined by what happens to us, but by how we react to what happens. Not by what life brings to us, but by the attitude we bring to life. A positive attitude causes a chain reaction of positive thoughts, events and outcomes. It is a catalyst, a spark that creates extraordinary results.”
“One of the happiest moments ever is when you find the courage to let go of what you can’t change.”
“We liberate children not by making them work for our love, but by letting them rest in it.”
“Every child is gifted. They just unwrap their packages at different times.”
“You can’t force someone to respect you, but you can refuse to be disrespected.”
“One of the hardest decisions you’ll ever face in life is choosing whether to walk away or try harder.”
“When life changes to be harder, change yourself to be stronger.”
“Laugh when you can, apologize when you should, let go of what you can’t change.”
“Until you realize you are the creator of your own misery you will never be truly happy. For it is how you react to any given situation that brings you happiness.”
“Strength is when you have so much to cry for, but you choose to smile instead.”
“May your choices reflect your hopes and not your fears!”
“Don’t keep taking the same road, expecting it to get you somewhere else.”
“One of the hardest lessons in life is letting go. Whether its guilt, anger, love, loss or betrayal. Change is never easy. We fight to hold on and we fight to let go.”
“Worry is a total waste of time. It doesn’t change anything. All it does is steal your joy and keeps you very busy doing nothing.”
“We must let go of the life we had planned so at to have the life that is waiting for us.”
“Don’t expect everyone to understand your journey, especially if they’ve never had to walk your path.”
“I think that the best thing we can do for our children is to allow them to do things for themselves, allow them to be strong, allow them to experience life on their own terms…let them be better people, let them believe more in themselves.”
“Don’t expect anyone to understand your journey, especially if they’ve never walked your path.”
“It’s not selfish to love yourself, take care of yourself, and make your happiness a priority. It’s necessary.”
“You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them.”
“Worry doesn’t take away the pain of tomorrow, but sucks the happiness and joy for today.”
“If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude about it.”
“You don’t need a plan, sometimes you just need to breathe, trust, let go and see what happens.”
“Perhaps the butterfly is proof that you can go through a great deal of darkness yet become something beautiful.”
“Sometimes we’re tested. Not to show our weaknesses, but to discover our strengths.”
“We do not see things as they are, we see things as we are.”
“Worry is a choice.”
“Promise me you’ll always remember that you’re braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think.”
“Just because something is not happening for you right now does not mean that it will never happen.”
“Love isn’t a state of perfect caring. It is an active noun like struggle. To love someone is to strive to accept that person exactly the way he or she is, right here and now.”
“At some point you just have to let go of what you thought should happen and live in what is happening.”
“Stop being afraid of what could go wrong and start being positive about what could go right.”
“So, for now, laugh at the confusion, smile through the tears and keep reminding yourself everything happens for a reason.”
“You never know how STRONG you are until being STRONG is the only choice you have.”
“I, not events, have the power to make me happy or unhappy. I think I will be happy today!”
About Robin
Robin Star’s passion is helping parents navigate the world of addiction and substance abuse. In her private practice she uses a science based program backed by 40 years of clinical research. Robin’s coaching uses these evidence based methods to empower parents to motivate their child who struggles with alcohol or drug abuse to seek treatment. On an individual or family basis she provides tools needed to traverse the challenges of coping with children addicted to drugs or alcohol (Substance Use Disorder).
“You don’t need a plan, sometimes you just need to breathe, trust, let go and see what happens.”
“One of the hardest decisions you’ll ever face in life is choosing whether to walk away or try harder.”
“To let go is to fear less and to love more. To let go is not to care for, but to care about.”
“Promise me you’ll always remember that you’re braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think.”
“Worry is a total waste of time. It doesn’t change anything. All it does is steal your joy and keeps you very busy doing nothing.”
“You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them.”
“Just because something is not happening for you right now does not mean that it will never happen.”
“Do what you can, with what you have, where you are.”
“Stop being afraid of what could go wrong and start being positive about what could go right.”
“Don’t keep taking the same road, expecting it to get you somewhere else.”
“One small positive thought in the morning can change your whole day.”
“Our lives are not determined by what happens to us, but by how we react to what happens. Not by what life brings to us, but by the attitude we bring to life. A positive attitude causes a chain reaction of positive thoughts, events and outcomes. It is a catalyst, a spark that creates extraordinary results.”
“Serenity is not freedom from the storm, but peace amidst the storm.”
“Sometimes people with the worst pasts end up creating the best futures.”
“Living Life fully means not waiting for the storm to pass, but learning to dance between the raindrops”
“Do the best you can until you know better. Then when you know better do better.”
“You never know how STRONG you are until being STRONG is the only choice you have.”
“We liberate children not by making them work for our love, but by letting them rest in it.”
“Treat others with kindness. You never know what burdens people bear or what they are going through. You may have power to lift their spirits or break them.”
“One of the happiest moments ever is when you find the courage to let go of what you can’t change.”
“Do not let the behavior of others destroy your inner peace.”
“Laugh when you can, apologize when you should, let go of what you can’t change.”
“Celebrate what you want to see more of.”
“I think that the best thing we can do for our children is to allow them to do things for themselves, allow them to be strong, allow them to experience life on their own terms…let them be better people, let them believe more in themselves.”
“If you judge people, you have no time to love them.”
“May your choices reflect your hopes and not your fears!”
“It is not what you do for your children, but what you have taught them to do for themselves, that will make them successful human beings.”
“You can’t force someone to respect you, but you can refuse to be disrespected.”
“Sometimes we get angry with people, when we should be angry with ourselves, because we gave them the power to change our mood and feelings.”
“Let go of what I cannot control.”
“Sometimes we’re tested. Not to show our weaknesses, but to discover our strengths.”
“Until you realize you are the creator of your own misery you will never be truly happy. For it is how you react to any given situation that brings you happiness.”
“Every child is gifted. They just unwrap their packages at different times.”
“Worry is like a rocking chair. It gives you something to do, but it doesn’t get you anywhere.”
“I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”
“It’s not selfish to love yourself, take care of yourself, and make your happiness a priority. It’s necessary.”
“We don’t have control over the actions of others. We do have control over how we allow their actions to affect us.”
“We must let go of the life we had planned so at to have the life that is waiting for us.”
“At some point you just have to let go of what you thought should happen and live in what is happening.”
“Storms in your life can be followed by rainbows.”
“Don’t judge a situation you have never been in.”
“So, for now, laugh at the confusion, smile through the tears and keep reminding yourself everything happens for a reason.”
“Every day may not be good, but there is something good in every day.”
“Be selective in your battles, sometimes peace is better than being right.”
“One of the hardest lessons in life is letting go. Whether its guilt, anger, love, loss or betrayal. Change is never easy. We fight to hold on and we fight to let go.”
“The past does not equal the future.”
“My worst fears can come true, whether I anguish over them or not.”
“Perhaps the butterfly is proof that you can go through a great deal of darkness yet become something beautiful.”
“Strength is when you have so much to cry for, but you choose to smile instead.”
“Forgive them even if they are not sorry. Holding on to anger only hurts you, not them.”
“Don’t expect everyone to understand your journey, especially if they’ve never had to walk your path.”
“Sometimes we need someone to simply be there…Not to fix anything in particular, but just to let us feel we are supported and cared about.”
“I am committed to own my own problems and let others own theirs.”
Piglet: “How do you spell love?”
Pooh: “You don’t spell it, you feel it.”
“I, not events, have the power to make me happy or unhappy. I think I will be happy today!”
“Transform sorrow into strength, pain into growth and fear into trust.”
“If you stumble, make it part of the dance!”
“Worry doesn’t take away the pain of tomorrow, but sucks the happiness and joy for today.”
“What if I fall? Oh, but my darling, what if you fly?”
Ego says: “Once everything falls into place, I will find peace.”
Spirit says: “Find peace and everything will fall into place.”
“Pessimism never won any battle.”
“Love isn’t a state of perfect caring. It is an active noun like struggle. To love someone is to strive to accept that person exactly the way he or she is, right here and now.”
“Worry is a choice.”
“When life changes to be harder, change yourself to be stronger.”
“We do not see things as they are, we see things as we are.”
“If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude about it.”
“Don’t expect anyone to understand your journey, especially if they’ve never walked your path.”
“When someone is trying to change their ways, the worst thing you can do is keep bringing up the past.”
“One day can change everything…”
“Consider how hard it is to change yourself and you’ll understand what little chance you have in trying to change others.”