Robin M. Star
Helping navigate the world of addiction and substance abuse
Schedule your confidential complimentary 30 minute consultation with Robin today!
Robin M. Star
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Helping navigate the world of addiction and substance abuse
Schedule your confidential complementary 30 minute consultation today!
About Robin
Robin Star’s passion is helping parents with adult children struggling to independently launch and find their way in the world. Robin’s other area of expertise is assisting parents in navigating the world of addiction and substance abuse. In her private practice she uses science-based programs backed by 40 years of clinical research to teach skills and tools to motivate others to desire change. Robin’s coaching uses these evidence-based methods to empower parents. On an individual or family basis she provides tools needed to traverse the challenges of coping with children struggling to launch. And those who are addicted to drugs or alcohol (substance use disorder).
After 9 years of coaching parents who have children with substance use disorder, I realigned my program to offer help to those parents who have adult children failing to launch onto their best life journey. The skills, tools and evidence-based practices from my work are associated with how we motivate our children to desire change. We cannot do it for them, but through the program we develop together, we can make strides in forming new pathways for our children.
She is the group facilitator for Parents of Addicted Children™, a support group founded in 1999 for parents who are experiencing on-going life problems due to their child’s (children of all ages) use of alcohol and/or drugs. Robin believes assisting the parents to help themselves is one of the most important single things they can do to help their child.
Robin also coaches parents through “Take Back Your Life”™, a 4 week course which teaches parents more effective ways to deal with their child who has Substance Use Disorder and learn how to set healthy boundaries, stop losing themselves in the child’s problematic behavior and help parents move from feelings of shame, isolation, hopelessness and helplessness to an increased feeling of hope and a sense of effectiveness. In order for parents to know how to stop losing themselves in their child’s addiction they need to learn that the only behavior they can control is their own.
Robin is a graduate of the University of Denver with a BS/BA, and is a Gestalt Professional Certified Coach with a specialty in coaching families with children failing to launch and/or struggling with alcohol or drugs. She is the founder of Star Group.
Robin is certified in Community Reinforcement Approach and Family Training (CRAFT) as a Parent Network Coach, trained by the Center for Motivation and Change and works with the Partnership for Drug Free Kids. Robin provides pragmatic behavioral coaching, alternative and practical client centered solutions. She works privately with families and facilitates group learning on how to support a loved one before, during and after change.
“Until you realize you are the creator of your own misery you will never be truly happy. For it is how you react to any given situation that brings you happiness.”
“Don’t expect everyone to understand your journey, especially if they’ve never had to walk your path.”
“What if I fall? Oh, but my darling, what if you fly?”
“The past does not equal the future.”
“I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”
“If you stumble, make it part of the dance!”
“Worry is a choice.”
“One of the hardest lessons in life is letting go. Whether its guilt, anger, love, loss or betrayal. Change is never easy. We fight to hold on and we fight to let go.”
“Do the best you can until you know better. Then when you know better do better.”
“Our lives are not determined by what happens to us, but by how we react to what happens. Not by what life brings to us, but by the attitude we bring to life. A positive attitude causes a chain reaction of positive thoughts, events and outcomes. It is a catalyst, a spark that creates extraordinary results.”
“Strength is when you have so much to cry for, but you choose to smile instead.”
“We don’t have control over the actions of others. We do have control over how we allow their actions to affect us.”
“Don’t keep taking the same road, expecting it to get you somewhere else.”
“Transform sorrow into strength, pain into growth and fear into trust.”
“Sometimes we need someone to simply be there…Not to fix anything in particular, but just to let us feel we are supported and cared about.”
“Consider how hard it is to change yourself and you’ll understand what little chance you have in trying to change others.”
“You never know how STRONG you are until being STRONG is the only choice you have.”
“One day can change everything…”
“Every child is gifted. They just unwrap their packages at different times.”
“We do not see things as they are, we see things as we are.”
“Forgive them even if they are not sorry. Holding on to anger only hurts you, not them.”
“Treat others with kindness. You never know what burdens people bear or what they are going through. You may have power to lift their spirits or break them.”
“So, for now, laugh at the confusion, smile through the tears and keep reminding yourself everything happens for a reason.”
“We liberate children not by making them work for our love, but by letting them rest in it.”
“I think that the best thing we can do for our children is to allow them to do things for themselves, allow them to be strong, allow them to experience life on their own terms…let them be better people, let them believe more in themselves.”
“My worst fears can come true, whether I anguish over them or not.”
“Worry is a total waste of time. It doesn’t change anything. All it does is steal your joy and keeps you very busy doing nothing.”
“Every day may not be good, but there is something good in every day.”
“Celebrate what you want to see more of.”
“If you judge people, you have no time to love them.”
“Worry doesn’t take away the pain of tomorrow, but sucks the happiness and joy for today.”
“Serenity is not freedom from the storm, but peace amidst the storm.”
“It’s not selfish to love yourself, take care of yourself, and make your happiness a priority. It’s necessary.”
Ego says: “Once everything falls into place, I will find peace.”
Spirit says: “Find peace and everything will fall into place.”
“When life changes to be harder, change yourself to be stronger.”
“Let go of what I cannot control.”
“We must let go of the life we had planned so at to have the life that is waiting for us.”
“Do not let the behavior of others destroy your inner peace.”
“Perhaps the butterfly is proof that you can go through a great deal of darkness yet become something beautiful.”
“Laugh when you can, apologize when you should, let go of what you can’t change.”
“Love isn’t a state of perfect caring. It is an active noun like struggle. To love someone is to strive to accept that person exactly the way he or she is, right here and now.”
“One of the happiest moments ever is when you find the courage to let go of what you can’t change.”
“Be selective in your battles, sometimes peace is better than being right.”
“You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them.”
“Sometimes we get angry with people, when we should be angry with ourselves, because we gave them the power to change our mood and feelings.”
“You can’t force someone to respect you, but you can refuse to be disrespected.”
“Worry is like a rocking chair. It gives you something to do, but it doesn’t get you anywhere.”
“Stop being afraid of what could go wrong and start being positive about what could go right.”
“Living Life fully means not waiting for the storm to pass, but learning to dance between the raindrops”
“Sometimes people with the worst pasts end up creating the best futures.”
“Promise me you’ll always remember that you’re braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think.”
“Just because something is not happening for you right now does not mean that it will never happen.”
“If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude about it.”
“At some point you just have to let go of what you thought should happen and live in what is happening.”
“Don’t judge a situation you have never been in.”
“You don’t need a plan, sometimes you just need to breathe, trust, let go and see what happens.”
“Don’t expect anyone to understand your journey, especially if they’ve never walked your path.”
“One small positive thought in the morning can change your whole day.”
“Storms in your life can be followed by rainbows.”
“I, not events, have the power to make me happy or unhappy. I think I will be happy today!”
“Do what you can, with what you have, where you are.”
“Pessimism never won any battle.”
“Sometimes we’re tested. Not to show our weaknesses, but to discover our strengths.”
“It is not what you do for your children, but what you have taught them to do for themselves, that will make them successful human beings.”
“May your choices reflect your hopes and not your fears!”
Piglet: “How do you spell love?”
Pooh: “You don’t spell it, you feel it.”
“When someone is trying to change their ways, the worst thing you can do is keep bringing up the past.”
“To let go is to fear less and to love more. To let go is not to care for, but to care about.”
“I am committed to own my own problems and let others own theirs.”
“One of the hardest decisions you’ll ever face in life is choosing whether to walk away or try harder.”
About Robin
Robin Star’s passion is helping parents navigate the world of addiction and substance abuse. In her private practice she uses a science based program backed by 40 years of clinical research. Robin’s coaching uses these evidence based methods to empower parents to motivate their child who struggles with alcohol or drug abuse to seek treatment. On an individual or family basis she provides tools needed to traverse the challenges of coping with children addicted to drugs or alcohol (Substance Use Disorder).
“Love isn’t a state of perfect caring. It is an active noun like struggle. To love someone is to strive to accept that person exactly the way he or she is, right here and now.”
“You can’t force someone to respect you, but you can refuse to be disrespected.”
“Pessimism never won any battle.”
“If you judge people, you have no time to love them.”
“Don’t judge a situation you have never been in.”
“May your choices reflect your hopes and not your fears!”
“It’s not selfish to love yourself, take care of yourself, and make your happiness a priority. It’s necessary.”
“Just because something is not happening for you right now does not mean that it will never happen.”
“Sometimes we need someone to simply be there…Not to fix anything in particular, but just to let us feel we are supported and cared about.”
“Worry is like a rocking chair. It gives you something to do, but it doesn’t get you anywhere.”
“What if I fall? Oh, but my darling, what if you fly?”
“If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude about it.”
“Our lives are not determined by what happens to us, but by how we react to what happens. Not by what life brings to us, but by the attitude we bring to life. A positive attitude causes a chain reaction of positive thoughts, events and outcomes. It is a catalyst, a spark that creates extraordinary results.”
“Don’t keep taking the same road, expecting it to get you somewhere else.”
“It is not what you do for your children, but what you have taught them to do for themselves, that will make them successful human beings.”
“Be selective in your battles, sometimes peace is better than being right.”
“If you stumble, make it part of the dance!”
“Until you realize you are the creator of your own misery you will never be truly happy. For it is how you react to any given situation that brings you happiness.”
“Do not let the behavior of others destroy your inner peace.”
“We must let go of the life we had planned so at to have the life that is waiting for us.”
“So, for now, laugh at the confusion, smile through the tears and keep reminding yourself everything happens for a reason.”
“Forgive them even if they are not sorry. Holding on to anger only hurts you, not them.”
“Transform sorrow into strength, pain into growth and fear into trust.”
“We don’t have control over the actions of others. We do have control over how we allow their actions to affect us.”
“Let go of what I cannot control.”
“I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”
“One day can change everything…”
“You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them.”
“I am committed to own my own problems and let others own theirs.”
“One of the hardest decisions you’ll ever face in life is choosing whether to walk away or try harder.”
“Living Life fully means not waiting for the storm to pass, but learning to dance between the raindrops”
“Worry doesn’t take away the pain of tomorrow, but sucks the happiness and joy for today.”
“Storms in your life can be followed by rainbows.”
“You never know how STRONG you are until being STRONG is the only choice you have.”
“When life changes to be harder, change yourself to be stronger.”
“Don’t expect everyone to understand your journey, especially if they’ve never had to walk your path.”
“I think that the best thing we can do for our children is to allow them to do things for themselves, allow them to be strong, allow them to experience life on their own terms…let them be better people, let them believe more in themselves.”
“My worst fears can come true, whether I anguish over them or not.”
“To let go is to fear less and to love more. To let go is not to care for, but to care about.”
“Treat others with kindness. You never know what burdens people bear or what they are going through. You may have power to lift their spirits or break them.”
“Don’t expect anyone to understand your journey, especially if they’ve never walked your path.”
“Celebrate what you want to see more of.”
“Do what you can, with what you have, where you are.”
“Promise me you’ll always remember that you’re braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think.”
“Perhaps the butterfly is proof that you can go through a great deal of darkness yet become something beautiful.”
“Sometimes we get angry with people, when we should be angry with ourselves, because we gave them the power to change our mood and feelings.”
“We liberate children not by making them work for our love, but by letting them rest in it.”
“You don’t need a plan, sometimes you just need to breathe, trust, let go and see what happens.”
“One small positive thought in the morning can change your whole day.”
“Every child is gifted. They just unwrap their packages at different times.”
Piglet: “How do you spell love?”
Pooh: “You don’t spell it, you feel it.”
“When someone is trying to change their ways, the worst thing you can do is keep bringing up the past.”
“Sometimes we’re tested. Not to show our weaknesses, but to discover our strengths.”
“One of the happiest moments ever is when you find the courage to let go of what you can’t change.”
“Do the best you can until you know better. Then when you know better do better.”
Ego says: “Once everything falls into place, I will find peace.”
Spirit says: “Find peace and everything will fall into place.”
“Strength is when you have so much to cry for, but you choose to smile instead.”
“The past does not equal the future.”
“Consider how hard it is to change yourself and you’ll understand what little chance you have in trying to change others.”
“Worry is a total waste of time. It doesn’t change anything. All it does is steal your joy and keeps you very busy doing nothing.”
“I, not events, have the power to make me happy or unhappy. I think I will be happy today!”
“Serenity is not freedom from the storm, but peace amidst the storm.”
“Worry is a choice.”
“Every day may not be good, but there is something good in every day.”
“One of the hardest lessons in life is letting go. Whether its guilt, anger, love, loss or betrayal. Change is never easy. We fight to hold on and we fight to let go.”
“At some point you just have to let go of what you thought should happen and live in what is happening.”
“Sometimes people with the worst pasts end up creating the best futures.”
“We do not see things as they are, we see things as we are.”
“Stop being afraid of what could go wrong and start being positive about what could go right.”
“Laugh when you can, apologize when you should, let go of what you can’t change.”