Robin M. Star
Helping navigate the world of addiction and substance abuse
Schedule your confidential complimentary 30 minute consultation with Robin today!
Robin M. Star
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Helping navigate the world of addiction and substance abuse
Schedule your confidential complementary 30 minute consultation today!
About Robin
Robin Star’s passion is helping parents with adult children struggling to independently launch and find their way in the world. Robin’s other area of expertise is assisting parents in navigating the world of addiction and substance abuse. In her private practice she uses science-based programs backed by 40 years of clinical research to teach skills and tools to motivate others to desire change. Robin’s coaching uses these evidence-based methods to empower parents. On an individual or family basis she provides tools needed to traverse the challenges of coping with children struggling to launch. And those who are addicted to drugs or alcohol (substance use disorder).
After 9 years of coaching parents who have children with substance use disorder, I realigned my program to offer help to those parents who have adult children failing to launch onto their best life journey. The skills, tools and evidence-based practices from my work are associated with how we motivate our children to desire change. We cannot do it for them, but through the program we develop together, we can make strides in forming new pathways for our children.
She is the group facilitator for Parents of Addicted Children™, a support group founded in 1999 for parents who are experiencing on-going life problems due to their child’s (children of all ages) use of alcohol and/or drugs. Robin believes assisting the parents to help themselves is one of the most important single things they can do to help their child.
Robin also coaches parents through “Take Back Your Life”™, a 4 week course which teaches parents more effective ways to deal with their child who has Substance Use Disorder and learn how to set healthy boundaries, stop losing themselves in the child’s problematic behavior and help parents move from feelings of shame, isolation, hopelessness and helplessness to an increased feeling of hope and a sense of effectiveness. In order for parents to know how to stop losing themselves in their child’s addiction they need to learn that the only behavior they can control is their own.
Robin is a graduate of the University of Denver with a BS/BA, and is a Gestalt Professional Certified Coach with a specialty in coaching families with children failing to launch and/or struggling with alcohol or drugs. She is the founder of Star Group.
Robin is certified in Community Reinforcement Approach and Family Training (CRAFT) as a Parent Network Coach, trained by the Center for Motivation and Change and works with the Partnership for Drug Free Kids. Robin provides pragmatic behavioral coaching, alternative and practical client centered solutions. She works privately with families and facilitates group learning on how to support a loved one before, during and after change.
Piglet: “How do you spell love?”
Pooh: “You don’t spell it, you feel it.”
“When someone is trying to change their ways, the worst thing you can do is keep bringing up the past.”
“So, for now, laugh at the confusion, smile through the tears and keep reminding yourself everything happens for a reason.”
“Perhaps the butterfly is proof that you can go through a great deal of darkness yet become something beautiful.”
“Do not let the behavior of others destroy your inner peace.”
“Do what you can, with what you have, where you are.”
“Celebrate what you want to see more of.”
“Promise me you’ll always remember that you’re braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think.”
“Do the best you can until you know better. Then when you know better do better.”
“At some point you just have to let go of what you thought should happen and live in what is happening.”
“It is not what you do for your children, but what you have taught them to do for themselves, that will make them successful human beings.”
“Every day may not be good, but there is something good in every day.”
“If you judge people, you have no time to love them.”
“Laugh when you can, apologize when you should, let go of what you can’t change.”
“Be selective in your battles, sometimes peace is better than being right.”
“Until you realize you are the creator of your own misery you will never be truly happy. For it is how you react to any given situation that brings you happiness.”
“Don’t expect anyone to understand your journey, especially if they’ve never walked your path.”
“We don’t have control over the actions of others. We do have control over how we allow their actions to affect us.”
“Love isn’t a state of perfect caring. It is an active noun like struggle. To love someone is to strive to accept that person exactly the way he or she is, right here and now.”
“Sometimes we’re tested. Not to show our weaknesses, but to discover our strengths.”
“You never know how STRONG you are until being STRONG is the only choice you have.”
“You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them.”
“Pessimism never won any battle.”
“Worry is like a rocking chair. It gives you something to do, but it doesn’t get you anywhere.”
“We do not see things as they are, we see things as we are.”
“We must let go of the life we had planned so at to have the life that is waiting for us.”
“Transform sorrow into strength, pain into growth and fear into trust.”
“Sometimes we need someone to simply be there…Not to fix anything in particular, but just to let us feel we are supported and cared about.”
“Worry is a choice.”
“Sometimes we get angry with people, when we should be angry with ourselves, because we gave them the power to change our mood and feelings.”
Ego says: “Once everything falls into place, I will find peace.”
Spirit says: “Find peace and everything will fall into place.”
“Every child is gifted. They just unwrap their packages at different times.”
“I am committed to own my own problems and let others own theirs.”
“Strength is when you have so much to cry for, but you choose to smile instead.”
“Just because something is not happening for you right now does not mean that it will never happen.”
“One of the happiest moments ever is when you find the courage to let go of what you can’t change.”
“Treat others with kindness. You never know what burdens people bear or what they are going through. You may have power to lift their spirits or break them.”
“If you stumble, make it part of the dance!”
“Worry is a total waste of time. It doesn’t change anything. All it does is steal your joy and keeps you very busy doing nothing.”
“Forgive them even if they are not sorry. Holding on to anger only hurts you, not them.”
“Stop being afraid of what could go wrong and start being positive about what could go right.”
“It’s not selfish to love yourself, take care of yourself, and make your happiness a priority. It’s necessary.”
“Consider how hard it is to change yourself and you’ll understand what little chance you have in trying to change others.”
“What if I fall? Oh, but my darling, what if you fly?”
“May your choices reflect your hopes and not your fears!”
“Sometimes people with the worst pasts end up creating the best futures.”
“Don’t keep taking the same road, expecting it to get you somewhere else.”
“Serenity is not freedom from the storm, but peace amidst the storm.”
“One day can change everything…”
“If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude about it.”
“I think that the best thing we can do for our children is to allow them to do things for themselves, allow them to be strong, allow them to experience life on their own terms…let them be better people, let them believe more in themselves.”
“Don’t expect everyone to understand your journey, especially if they’ve never had to walk your path.”
“When life changes to be harder, change yourself to be stronger.”
“Let go of what I cannot control.”
“One of the hardest decisions you’ll ever face in life is choosing whether to walk away or try harder.”
“I, not events, have the power to make me happy or unhappy. I think I will be happy today!”
“You can’t force someone to respect you, but you can refuse to be disrespected.”
“One of the hardest lessons in life is letting go. Whether its guilt, anger, love, loss or betrayal. Change is never easy. We fight to hold on and we fight to let go.”
“I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”
“Our lives are not determined by what happens to us, but by how we react to what happens. Not by what life brings to us, but by the attitude we bring to life. A positive attitude causes a chain reaction of positive thoughts, events and outcomes. It is a catalyst, a spark that creates extraordinary results.”
“Storms in your life can be followed by rainbows.”
“We liberate children not by making them work for our love, but by letting them rest in it.”
“Don’t judge a situation you have never been in.”
“One small positive thought in the morning can change your whole day.”
“Living Life fully means not waiting for the storm to pass, but learning to dance between the raindrops”
“To let go is to fear less and to love more. To let go is not to care for, but to care about.”
“You don’t need a plan, sometimes you just need to breathe, trust, let go and see what happens.”
“Worry doesn’t take away the pain of tomorrow, but sucks the happiness and joy for today.”
“The past does not equal the future.”
“My worst fears can come true, whether I anguish over them or not.”
About Robin
Robin Star’s passion is helping parents navigate the world of addiction and substance abuse. In her private practice she uses a science based program backed by 40 years of clinical research. Robin’s coaching uses these evidence based methods to empower parents to motivate their child who struggles with alcohol or drug abuse to seek treatment. On an individual or family basis she provides tools needed to traverse the challenges of coping with children addicted to drugs or alcohol (Substance Use Disorder).
“One of the hardest lessons in life is letting go. Whether its guilt, anger, love, loss or betrayal. Change is never easy. We fight to hold on and we fight to let go.”
“Sometimes we get angry with people, when we should be angry with ourselves, because we gave them the power to change our mood and feelings.”
“Sometimes people with the worst pasts end up creating the best futures.”
“May your choices reflect your hopes and not your fears!”
“Perhaps the butterfly is proof that you can go through a great deal of darkness yet become something beautiful.”
“Let go of what I cannot control.”
“I think that the best thing we can do for our children is to allow them to do things for themselves, allow them to be strong, allow them to experience life on their own terms…let them be better people, let them believe more in themselves.”
“It is not what you do for your children, but what you have taught them to do for themselves, that will make them successful human beings.”
“You don’t need a plan, sometimes you just need to breathe, trust, let go and see what happens.”
“If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude about it.”
“You can’t force someone to respect you, but you can refuse to be disrespected.”
“Stop being afraid of what could go wrong and start being positive about what could go right.”
“Sometimes we’re tested. Not to show our weaknesses, but to discover our strengths.”
“If you stumble, make it part of the dance!”
“Our lives are not determined by what happens to us, but by how we react to what happens. Not by what life brings to us, but by the attitude we bring to life. A positive attitude causes a chain reaction of positive thoughts, events and outcomes. It is a catalyst, a spark that creates extraordinary results.”
“So, for now, laugh at the confusion, smile through the tears and keep reminding yourself everything happens for a reason.”
“We do not see things as they are, we see things as we are.”
“Forgive them even if they are not sorry. Holding on to anger only hurts you, not them.”
“Serenity is not freedom from the storm, but peace amidst the storm.”
“Promise me you’ll always remember that you’re braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think.”
“Until you realize you are the creator of your own misery you will never be truly happy. For it is how you react to any given situation that brings you happiness.”
“Transform sorrow into strength, pain into growth and fear into trust.”
“My worst fears can come true, whether I anguish over them or not.”
“When life changes to be harder, change yourself to be stronger.”
“Every child is gifted. They just unwrap their packages at different times.”
“We don’t have control over the actions of others. We do have control over how we allow their actions to affect us.”
“If you judge people, you have no time to love them.”
“At some point you just have to let go of what you thought should happen and live in what is happening.”
“Laugh when you can, apologize when you should, let go of what you can’t change.”
“I, not events, have the power to make me happy or unhappy. I think I will be happy today!”
“Be selective in your battles, sometimes peace is better than being right.”
“Worry is like a rocking chair. It gives you something to do, but it doesn’t get you anywhere.”
Piglet: “How do you spell love?”
Pooh: “You don’t spell it, you feel it.”
“Love isn’t a state of perfect caring. It is an active noun like struggle. To love someone is to strive to accept that person exactly the way he or she is, right here and now.”
“Storms in your life can be followed by rainbows.”
“Pessimism never won any battle.”
“You never know how STRONG you are until being STRONG is the only choice you have.”
“Celebrate what you want to see more of.”
“Don’t expect anyone to understand your journey, especially if they’ve never walked your path.”
“We liberate children not by making them work for our love, but by letting them rest in it.”
“Don’t expect everyone to understand your journey, especially if they’ve never had to walk your path.”
“Worry is a choice.”
“Living Life fully means not waiting for the storm to pass, but learning to dance between the raindrops”
“One small positive thought in the morning can change your whole day.”
“We must let go of the life we had planned so at to have the life that is waiting for us.”
“I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”
“You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them.”
“Do the best you can until you know better. Then when you know better do better.”
“One day can change everything…”
“Worry is a total waste of time. It doesn’t change anything. All it does is steal your joy and keeps you very busy doing nothing.”
“The past does not equal the future.”
“Strength is when you have so much to cry for, but you choose to smile instead.”
“I am committed to own my own problems and let others own theirs.”
“One of the happiest moments ever is when you find the courage to let go of what you can’t change.”
“Sometimes we need someone to simply be there…Not to fix anything in particular, but just to let us feel we are supported and cared about.”
“Consider how hard it is to change yourself and you’ll understand what little chance you have in trying to change others.”
“Worry doesn’t take away the pain of tomorrow, but sucks the happiness and joy for today.”
“Do not let the behavior of others destroy your inner peace.”
“What if I fall? Oh, but my darling, what if you fly?”
“It’s not selfish to love yourself, take care of yourself, and make your happiness a priority. It’s necessary.”
“When someone is trying to change their ways, the worst thing you can do is keep bringing up the past.”
“One of the hardest decisions you’ll ever face in life is choosing whether to walk away or try harder.”
“Do what you can, with what you have, where you are.”
“Just because something is not happening for you right now does not mean that it will never happen.”
“Treat others with kindness. You never know what burdens people bear or what they are going through. You may have power to lift their spirits or break them.”
Ego says: “Once everything falls into place, I will find peace.”
Spirit says: “Find peace and everything will fall into place.”
“To let go is to fear less and to love more. To let go is not to care for, but to care about.”
“Don’t keep taking the same road, expecting it to get you somewhere else.”
“Don’t judge a situation you have never been in.”
“Every day may not be good, but there is something good in every day.”