Being hard on yourself now serves no purpose and is in fact counterproductive with respect to the change that must happen. Your kids and your husband don’t know your boundaries because neither do you. It

By Camilo Ortiz and Lenore Skenazy Dr. Ortiz, a psychologist, is an associate professor of psychology at Long Island University, Post. Ms. Skenazy is the president of the nonprofit Let Grow and the author of “Free-Range Kids.” A colleague